The wedding ceremony that takes place in the state of Bengal between Bengali people is popularly addressed as Bengali wedding. A Bengali wedding is known to take place in an elaborate fashion making it a long event. What makes the Bengali wedding long and elaborate are the number of rituals and ceremonies that take place during the wedding.
All rituals that take place pre wedding, during wedding and post wedding offer ample of opportunities for the family members to spend fun moments together. Another thing about all Bengali wedding rituals is that each one of them is meaningful as well as interesting.
Read further to know more about Bengali wedding rituals and their significance in the life of the bride and groom and their families. This post is brought to you by Mr Samal from Middleton Chamber, a popular banquet halls in kolkata for reception and other events.
The pre-wedding customs start with Ashirwaad ritual, where elders from both the families visit each other’s place to bless the bride and the groom. The sprinkle husked rice and trefoil over the bride’s and groom’s head. Also, gold ornaments are exchanged. This ritual symbolizes acceptance of the new relation.
Aai Budo Bhaat
Aai Budo Bhaat is a name to the bachelor party for the bride. This is to have some fun time with relatives and friends.
The next ritual is Holud Kota. It is time for five or seven married women of the family to prepare turmeric paste. Then, they apply this turmeric paste to the bride so as to brighten up the bride’s complexion and add glow to her face. This ritual is more commonly addressed as ‘Haldi’ ritual in Hindus while Bengalis call it as ‘Holud Kota’.
On the wedding day, seven married ladies make the bride ready with traditional bangles Shakha and Paula. This ritual is known as ‘Dodhi Mongol’. These ladies also feed the bride with a curd and rice.
The main wedding rituals begin with the custom of ‘Bor Jatri’, where members from the groom’s family come to the bride’s house. All of them get dressed in their best attire and arrive at the bride’s place from where the wedding is going to take place.
As the groom’s people reach the bride’s place, the mother of the bride along with other family members welcome them with earthen lamps, trefoil and husked rice that are placed on a bamboo winnow. This is known as ‘Bor Boron’. All members from the groom’s family are served with sweets and drinks.
This is followed by the ritual of ‘Potto Bastra’, where the groom is offered new clothes from the bride’s side, ‘Saat Paak’, where the bride who sits on ‘piri’ is lifted by her brothers and takes seven rounds around the groom, ‘Mala Badal’, where the bride and the groom exchange garlands and ‘Subho Dristi’ where the couple looks at each other.
Then begin the real rituals including ‘Sampradan’ by the elderly male member from the bride’s family, ‘Yagna’, ‘Saat Paak’ that are commonly known as ‘saat phere’, ‘Sindoor Daan’ and ‘Ghomta’.
The couple gets wedded for life officially this way. And the wedding is followed by the ritual of ‘Bidaai’ where the bride bids adieu to her family and starts her journey to a new life with her beau.